Hey, im back, that was my gf chimming in there and pretending to be me, lol.
As far as the frogspawn debate, we have two other frogspawns and this is definitely not anything like them. The tentacles always appear balloonish, regardless of location in the tank -- the balloonish tentacles and random spots is what drew my gf to this guy after already having two other frogspawns (it looked like this in the LFS as well). The other frogspawns we have were more like the usual ones we see online (more tentacle like with just 1 or 2 spots on the ends).
This guy swell as the come out more, but they always have a round, bubble like look, they just get larger as the coral comes out more. That and the spots all over each extension made it seem much different than the frogspawn we have seen in the LFS and online, hence why I decided to ask RC
FWIW, one of the LFS did have one that looked like ours, excpet white instead of green, like the picture notabun linked, in their personal tank. It had been in the tank for a long time and still had the round, balloon like extensions. That made me think it was some odd frogspawn morph or different variety.
I'll try to remember to get a picture of it night when it tucks in so you can see the skeletal system. As to what kind of flow it is in, I still dont know what constitutes high-moderate-low flow, but this coral has as much movement as anything else in the tank, i would considerate it moderate flow. Its been in the tank for at least 2-3 weeks now.
Whatever it is, its a cool one, lol. Thanks for everyones input!