so if the kits are so bad how do people add potassium with out making it too high or keeping it too low? should i just forget the test kit and add the recommended dose on the bottle?
I've never added it and that is one of the reasons why. I wish there was a reliable way to test, but I'm not yet convinced (although I also cannot prove the current tests are inaccurate).
FWIW, there is no historical evidence that potassium gets substantially depleted in typical reef tanks, and there is evidence that it does not in many. It is seemingly only with the advent of the bacterial growth strategies of nutrient reduction. The presumed reason is that the growing bacteria consume an unusually large amount of potassium, relative to other organisms in the tank (like fish, macroalgae, corals, etc).
So unless you are driving a lot of bacterial growth, I see no clear evidence that you need to worry about potassium. I don't, but maybe that will be proven wrong long term.
If you do drive bacterial growth, then perhaps potassium is a concern. I wish there were more useful information on it and how to measure it, but there isn't. So you are left with a lot of guesswork.
one of the things brightwell recommends is potassium for the neozeo so i was wondering what people are using
Well, that is certainly not convincing since they also recommend a lot of other things that they sell that I know for certain to be useless. But it might be true, especially when driving bacteria as that product does.