It's time for me to say goodbye

guitarfish

Premium Member
I never imagined this day would come, but I have to leave this awesome hobby. I haven't been to RC a whole lot over the last year or so, but back in 2002-2004 I was here every day, so I'm sure some of you remember me.

When I got into this hobby I was in a real funk - depression. I fought it for years, and was ready to see a doctor, but decided to make a last ditch attempt to beat it by starting a new endeavor. I needed an outlet, something new and challenging, and I decided it would be a reef tank. Back in '02 I setup a 28g salt tank and didn't have a clue what I was doing. After a lot of learning here at RC, I spent the next year designing and building a 75g RR setup. I built the stand, designed the plumbing, built an electical control panel, filled her up, and went from there. It was so much fun, it seems like only yesterday. The depression was gone before the first year was out, and I never looked back.

I still remember getting my first (and 2nd, and 3rd) delivery of live rock. I still remember getting my first corals, taking the day off, waiting for the FedEx truck to come. Those were the days, I'll tell ya. There's nothing like watching a flame angel swim around in a reef tank in your own home. What beauty.

My tank came out really nice, and I had a lot of wonderful experiences showing it off to visitors. Unfortunately, I had my struggles too.

First and foremost - ich. I got it out of my display, and setup a QT tank for new arrivals, but I had a string of failures. Every time I brought home a new fish, they'd end up dead before I ever got them in the display. Either I couldn't kill the ich (several failed hypo attempts), or they didn't acclimate well, or wouldn't eat. My fish never did well with copper. Once, a gorgeous coral beauty almost made it with, but the heater locked up and cooked him in the QT.

Then there was algae. Despite using RO water, skimming, growing chaeto, dripping kalk, using Phosban, and feeding lightly, I had recurring bouts with slime algae, which would come back with a vengeance whenever I put in new lights, and it would stay for months. Weekly siphoning off the rocks and sand got old quick.

Finally, there was the cost. This isn't a cheap hobby if you do it right, and the rewards weren't there anymore. It got to the point where I couldn't sit in front of my tank and enjoy it because all I'd see were the things wrong with it. All I do all day long at work is solve problems, and I could no longer stand coming home and have my reef become just another "problem" to deal with. (Major Type A personality here).

I actually wrestled with the idea of taking it down for almost a year and a half. Finally one day, that was it, I made the decision. A month ago I started selling pieces. Tonight, a buyer drove away with the tank, stand and sump. I have a few misc. items left to sell, that's it.

Taking it down was sad and painful. The night I drained the water, I hung my arm over the side of the tank, running my fingers through the sand, it smelled like I was at the ocean. I shed a tear, I'll admit. Perhaps if my life's circumstances undergo a drastic change, I may have another reef someday, but I doubt it. I love the hobby, but recognize it's not something I can do.

My other hobby, my number one, is guitars, as my screen name indicates. I treated myself to a new amplifer with some of the money from the selloff. I still have to have fish in my life - I pulled out my original 28g tank and setup a freshwater tank, complete with live plants. Incredibly easy and cheap compared to a reef.

My reef adventures will be limited to stopping by the LFS or visiting my friend's reef from time to time, as well as an occasional trip to the National Aquarium in Baltimore, MD. Someday I'll dive a real reef too.

RC and all you people here - THANK YOU. You really did help me pull out of an awful period of my life, where a dark cloud followed me everywhere I went. And knowledge? The amount of stuff I learned here...simply astonishing.

Below are a few pics of my journey. Take care everyone. You guys have been great.

-Dave

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I'm sorry to see someone leave the hobby, especially when you had such beautiful tanks, but I can understand. It sounds like it's been an evolution and, for now at least, you've come to the end of the journey. Hopefully you'll be back, but for now enjoy the planted tank -- they can be just as rewarding (and sometimes as much of a PITA) as reef tanks. Check out www.plantedtank.net and www.aquaticplantcentral.com, they've got nice forums with loads of info :)
 
Don't leave Dave, just take a break if you need to. You have been around so long, you are a friend to a lot of us.
 
I remember you a lot Dave!! When I saw the title of this thread, and then saw that you posted it, I knew I had to take a look.

Hey, don't feel bad. There are lots of fun things to do in life and I'm glad that this hobby got you out of a slump.

Have a great time in the future, and I'm grateful for the great threads you've started and the experiences and photos you've shared.

I neglected my tank big time, and haven't been around here much for the last year and a half due to building a house, but I'm going to finally swap to a 90g from the 38g I've had for 10 years now as a salt water setup.

God's blessings in the future.

Dan
 
sorry to hear it man. i know how it feels to give it up. i sold my tank 2 months ago when i left for texas.
and if it makes you feel any better, ill let you in on a little secret thats eating ME inside. not only do i not have a reef tank, but wife just told me she's leaving me and taking our 2 year old daughter and moving halfway across the country to san francisco california. what a drag!!!
 
Sorry to see you go, Dave. I remember discussing QT and treatment methods with you in the "Ich-free tank" thread quite a while back. Whether you were ultimately successful or not, sharing your experience was valuable to me and I'm sure many others. It's a shame you had such frustrations, and I sincerely hope you have better luck next time around.

-Jeff
 
guitarfish

Good luck dude....you could just chime in once in a while here in RC from time to time and share your knowledge to others here. We will indeed miss you here.

HW
 
cmon dave I just made it back here after over a year myself. now who's going to play ich tag or ich conspiracy with me? I will miss looking for posts by you, they were almost always the same concern that I was having at the time, I thought our tanks were linked through space and time. perhaps we'll meet in a freshwater forum someday(I have salt and fresh tanks). I really did learn alot from you being here, that being said welcome back!
 
And never say never! I 'got out' of reefing when I moved cross country and changed from a big house to a little apartment...

And here I am, with the living room bubbling again. I've started and stopped reefing, oh, when I went to college [I got a tank]---and when I set up housekeeping: house 1, no tank, house 2, no tank, house 3--8 fresh and reef tanks and an indoor 'pond'' in a corner. Apartment 1, no tank. Apt. 2, and bingo, another reef!

So rest up, enjoy another aspect of life, and when you miss the sound of bubbles---there you are.
 
Guitarfish, I am sorry to hear you having to leave the hobby. For myself, I 've also had bouts with algae problems- battling one now two years later. Hope you can rekindle the interest again sometime in the near future and get back again. Good luck and take care.
 
Wow, Dave... that is so sad to see someone who knows alot about this hobby just give it away. You have given me some advice before but here I am, still battling, struggling, and eventually will be successful with this beautiful hobby. Actually, I am pretty successful now with some help from you...
 
Best wished Dave.. feel free to send your wisdom down to northern New Jersey.. we're about 45 minutes away from you. If you know of any local hot spots to help out relatively newbies, drop us a pm. Best wishes and stay well..
 
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