The clam people know a few things, indeed.
Sounds like being a coral in your tank is pretty good :thumbsup:
IMO, if you have LPS thriving in your water quality, don't get too hung up on polyp size.
I would strongly, strongly consider a QT tank or some practices for all new Acropora and Montipora. There's a couple pests that can be devastating, and it's become kind of a pain to be safe ... but I lost a number of grown-out Monti's in the last year to nudibranchs, once you've got a couple, play it safe.
Your first couple frags - probably not an issue, but worth knowing. Once you get a couple, keep in mind.
But I don't see a reason you can't keep most `SPS', and get pretty good color/growth out a few. IMO, Monti digitatas are a very rewarding first SPS as they quickly start encrusting, then growing - often fairly easy to color. In 6 months that frag is a nice little colony - in a year it grabs your attention. For plating Montipora - figure out it's space, get a nice one fairly early - and give it a few years.
At least at first with frags - good flow is not that tricky. Once the colony gets larger - flow will become something you'll need to consider more. Compared to other corals, IMO Acropora/Montipora/tightly branched digitate stony corals require more consideration of flow when they grow larger.
If you haven't checked out the stickied threads [`lets talk about __ in a sps tank'] ... they're a great read.
Sounds like you've got quite a handle on things. Use any locals you can - they often have some nice frags, good advice on their care too.
Anyway, I'm rambling ... I'll shut up now.
Keep us posted, with pics