Don't feel bad. I have a pair of tomatoes that use to love my long tentacle but it died on me to what I assume was a bristle worm. Then one of the tomatoes use to hang out with my Condy. I traded the condy in and got a carpet. The clowns don't even bother with it. Some clowns will only host in some anemones, and some will not host at all. Condys are not a natural host anemone, they are from a region void of clowns. Not only do they react diferrent to clowns, but wild caught clowns are not use to them.