I have a 24 inch Current Nova Extreme T5 fixture with one 20K and one actinic bulb. On my 55 gallon softie tank I run two 48 inch fixtures, with 2 20K and 2 actinics. This tank has dozens of softies, including about 10 leather toadstools, one of them is about 14 inches in diameter and about the same height. There is also a finger leather that is about 16 inches tall, maybe 12 inches wide, with well over 50 fingers. (Yes, the corals are outgrowing the tank, but we have plans for upgrading to a 300 gallon deep dimension.) The lights also support a sarcophyton elegans living 2/3 up the water column (that's the yellow toadstool that is more delicate than the others). I don't skim this tank. I do have carbon that I don't change often enough - I don't think I've changed it in 3 months. I DO change five gallons of water on each tank every 7-10 days, though.
The skimmer is up to you. They really do help lower the waste load in the aquarium. This is especially helpful with a big eater like the peacock mantis. I run a 29 gallon sps tank with no skimmer. It houses a Randall's Goby, Lawnmower Blenny and a Coral Beauty, as well as two large serpent stars, two peppermint shrimp, numerous hermits and a recently confirmed (though long suspected) smasher type mantis shrimp of about 2 inches. There are 10 or so sps corals and 4-5 lps. I have a large derasa and numerous small sponges on the undersides of the live rock that all help to clean the water. I had a skimmer on it for a while but the corals seemed to suffer for lack of nutrients. Now I have two goniopora colonies that need a lot of foot. I feed the tank a few drops of oyster eggs, a few drops of rotifeast, and a few drops of phytofeast every day or two. With this heavier feeding, the skimmer would probably help a little, but with diligent water changes, is not necessary. I hope to upgrade this tank to a 150 cube in the next month or so, and will then run a skimmer with a refugium so I can heavily feed and stock. When I upgrade the softie tank I will not skim it.