It's hard to say: personally, some of my problems with my 3 being too much for my 55 (and my 1 being too little) come from my rock placement: it's very hard to position the 3 so it's not blowing soft corals too hard (oddly, it often ends up blowing them hard towards the fan rather than away). But a different arrangement might make all the difference.
Maybe try getting a 3, and then seeing how it does in your tank before getting 2 4s. If you end up needing the 2 4s after all, there's a million ways that 3 can come in handy (for instance, breaking up the flow from the 4s even more)