I know whats going on.....had the same problem.
So you add your buffer to "set" your water before you add it correct? What end up happening is your Alk goes through the roof, snails and stuff die. Correct?
Had a simimlar experience, I was using the Proper 8.2 in all my water and this happened. What I did is that I stopped using it so much. The buffers in the ph set are powerful, I only use it to set the tank and use a supplement such as b-ionic to regulate it. I hardly use the stuff anymore......
To fix it, do water changes and DON't add any more ph setter. The alk will come down slowly as you do water changes and topoffs. Test your alk and ca because they are mutally exclusive and bring them into range. If your Alk is that high, your CA is probably depressed.
Test your alk and CA everyday until you get the levels you want, start using Kalk or 2part additives.
Takes a while to fix, but after I fixed mine all my "problems" with the tank went away. Best thing to do is to get into a routine with hubandry and should be easy to solve.