PAreefer40
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Well I woke up this morning and found my nem like this 

Well, you added an anemone way too soon.
The reason people say wait at least 6 months is so you can get a grip on the hobby, doing water changes, letting the tank stabilize, learning your skimmer, getting into a cleaning routine, etc.
This hobby takes some effort.
Your CA number is way low, which can mean testing error, or your SG is way off, who knows.
Take some water to a LFS, have them test it.
Do some water changes, get an ATO, have an adequate skimmer, get rid of the cannister filter.
If your fish are dying, something is not right.