Well, I talked to LiveAquaria, Marine Depot, and The Marine Center and here's what I found out.
For starters, all three were in agreement that the majority of the anthias they sell are considered to be male if no sex is specified. LiveAquaria said they could accomodate trying to sell specific sexes, but said that they could make no promises about completely accurate sexing. Marine Depot and The Marine Center both pretty much stated that they are sold as is.
I guess my only worry is that if I order a group of bartlett's is that I'll end up with a group of all males and I assume, a potential case for disaster. Unfortunately, I haven't even seen pictures of the individual sexes for these online so it would be hard to even tell the difference in person. I guess the best bet, as you said, is to get a large group and work from there. I would be really interested in any and all pictures of your anthias as I remember following a thread you talked a great deal in about bimaculatus anthias and if the bartlett's work out I think some day I'd like to try the bimaculatus too.
Thanks.