Thanks and, yea, I gotcha on the no more fish! Tired of wasting money. I do use a refractometer and my salinity is 1.024 +/-. The test kit I use is in a black box and says "Red Sea" on it. They said it was the same one they use in the store and cost around $50. What would you recommend for a RODI filter?
I know you said not to listen to the LFS but they did say that since it was a fish only tank that I didn't need to worry about calcium or magnesium levels - another lie??
it's not AS critical for 'fish only', but if you have live rock, your tank isn't 'fish only'. the idea behind all of the parameters and values listed is to replicate (within reason) the same parameters as natural sea water, which is also where the fish come from. they also have a relationship w/ proper water chemistry-alkalinity, ph, and calcium will most likely affect their bone health/development, etc
there's no reason to NOT try to replicate the natural environment where any animal we keep comes from, to maximize our rate of success in that animal's husbandry
i'd also make sure you clean the canister regularly-your live rock is your preferred bio filter-the canister should be getting used as an auxiliary mechanical/chemical (read: carbon, phosphate) filter only-and all mechanical media, regardless of where it's located, should be cleaned often,(every 1-2 weeks), as all decaying matter pollutes, regardless of where it's found in the system.
redsea is an ok kit, and tends to be as accurate as salifert-just stay away from api
re: rodi-any 4 stage (sediment,carbon,ro,di) will do-the selection is more about the gpd rate-i generally recommend getting one that can make at least 50% of your tank's volume in 24 hours or less (in case you need to prep an emergency batch of water for a poisoning event, for example)-so if you have a 100 gal tank, get at least a 50 gpd unit. spectrapure, kent, airwaterice, etc etc and that 'league' of rodi's will be fine-there's dozens of companies-they're all built the same from the same components, made in the same factories-the main diff is the company label they slap on when they put their units together-not unlike stereo components (the electronics are all built in pretty much the same factories-an onkyo transistor is built by the same factory as a sony, kenwood, transistor, etc (more or less), the diff is more in the 'shell' w/the diff company's name, heh).
you should also do some reading on cycling (the nitrogen cycle). imo, you were trying to stock the tank too quickly, w/out regard to how the cycle works/progresses. it's far better to cycle a tank w/OUT fish-that way they don't get stressed/damaged from the usually occurring buildup of ammonia/nitrite during the initial cycle. and never introduce any critter, fish or invert, if there's ANY reading for ammonia/nitrite, and less than 5-10 ppm nitrate, while starting out/learning the hobby.
hth