So sorry to hear this, just wish you could have posted this as soon as the problem arose. But don't despair, I'm sure someone here can help you.
I don't think it's your bulbs at all, why? The problem started in one tank, then migrated to the other.
Question - You said you are keeping sps also, correct? Did the zoanthid retraction begin in the tank with the SPS?
Please see the link at the top of the page and answer all of the question if you can please. I've linked it below.
http://www.reefcentral.com/forums/showthread.php?t=1852463
Even though you said your parameters were fine, can you list all of them?
Then click on the link below and see if anything rings a bell, then get back to us soon.
http://www.reefcentral.com/forums/showthread.php?t=1154238
I have an idea what the problem could be, but would like to hear back from you on the questions above and also in the links above.
Are you testing often, if so, what test kits are you using?
Can you provide the exact number of days in which both tanks have had this issue?
Have you performed a water change recently?
If both tanks are tied together, is there filter screen, a filter sock,sponge filter, etc, anything at all filtering the water from one system to the next? Or are they free flowing?
Last question for now, did you make any new purchases or additions just before the problem arose in the first tank?
Keep your chin up, there is hope my friend.
Mucho Reef