I am not so much worried about the solenoid failing, as I am a float switch sticking.
With regards to the calcium buildup, I can see that may be an issue for some people. They do make float valves with discharge tubes that would not be as prone to buildup.
There are two ways you can use hte float valve. 1) is as the level controller with the floats in the resevoir as I mentioned above. The float valve acts as the primary level controller. 2) as the discharge point above an in-sump float setup, where the float valve acts only as an emergency shut-off.
I would consider using the scenario in (1) if it is just RO/DI being used for top-off. Again the reasons are very straightforward. A stuck float valve, or resevoir switch can not cause the sump to flood. The accident is limited to 5 gallons. A stuck solenoid is s different story, but the float valve should take care of that.
In the setup stile uses and joe is contemplting, the solenoids are backed up, but hte floats are not. The emergency float will help and should give a piece of mind. The sump water level however will fluctuate between the start and stop float. This may be a problem, or may not be a problem. Small tank volumes will have salinity swings and skimmers don't like level changes. If this is not an issue, then the setup will be fine.
Bean