Troender
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Having the exact problem right now. I had a breeding pair, lost the male, and have recently bought a new male, smaller than the female. The female was not happy with her new husband. But it seems to have calmed down a lot in two weeks. Yesterday I actually saw them 1-2 inches appart, without her chasing him. Well, at least for 5-10 seconds.Make sure the female is smaller than the male. When I tried to pair them in the past bigger females will beat up on smaller males
Back to the mandarins: I think the key to pairing them is patience. Let them get used to each other, without giving up right away.