And there was no real reason to avoid it, either, especially when the clam started going downhill.
I think the lesson to be taken away here is this.
It's hard to both give advice, and to take it, when something like this happens. Having been on both sides of the keyboard, both offereing and asking for advice, I don't know which is harder... offering advice that might be incorrect, or accepting advice and committing to a course of action that might be incorrect..
We all try to do the best we can, but if you look back at this thread, there are a number of possible problems proposed... fish nipping, alkalinty maladjustments, predatory snails... and the list goes on.
So, when you're on the receiving end, how do you decide whose advice is right?
I knew in my gut that it wasn't an alkalinity problem. When you have SPS and LPS that look like this, tank chemistry probably isn't an issue...
And there's little to convince me this is a nipping problem. So, I still believe this was a PM issue, because at least some photos that I've seen look substantially similar to what I've experienced...
Note the 'chunks' missing, which could easily be interpreted to be a nipping problem.
It's not easy to know what to do. At the end of the day, looking back, I'd have done the FW dip five days ago, when the clam still had a chance. Lesson learned. I'll be keeping a sharp eye peeled on the others.
Thanks to everyone here for all for your help. It didn't work out this time, but perhaps there's something to be taken away for all of us.