Yeah, you're doing lots of lumping and drawing inappropriate conclusions. The term "bristleworm" refers to all polychaetes- several thousand species, from featherdusters, to spaghetti worms, to eunicids, and the typical fireworms. They're lots of different worms with very different behavior, a few of which that bore into rock.
When hobbyists use the term they're usually referring more specifically to the amphinomids (aka fireworms) like Eurythoe. These guys do not bore rock. In fact, they don't even have jaws. With the exception of Hermodice carunculata, which is extremely rare in the hobby, these are harmless regardless of size.
I'm not sure why you're so concerned about boring anyway. Rock boring creatures are a huge part of the reef fauna and virtually all of them do it to find protection, not food. The animals that bore into shells for food tend to be specialized at that and don't bore into rock. There's little overlap between groups.