kmac, you don't list where you are located, but if there is a bigger store around you that sells saltwater fish and has multiple mandarins in at a time, you can usually find a female. Finding a healthy wild caught mandarin isn't the easiest thing to do, but in my experience it does help to have a nice, plump, frozen food eating male at home to help teach the new female what to do. I don't know about anyone else, but once I got my pair together they would do mating dances at night (make sure you have a dusk period for you lighting) but when the female wasn't interested, she would go after the male (and he was twice as big as her!)