Well, you have a problem.
For the future, it is always best to research a fish before you buy it.
You will not be able to deter the male's aggression. He is only doing what comes naturally. The problem is, the poor female likely cannot handle it.
Removing him and adding him again will have no effect. In fact, it will probably make the problem much worse.
Lyretails will easily jump from any uncovered system they are unhappy in, and I imagine that will mean your sump. Moreover, the change from female to male starts quite rapidly. By moving the male to your sump for a few weeks, you afford the female the opportunity to change into a male. Then you have two males, who will never tolerate each other.
Lyretails have high metabolisms and fare poorly in fish traps or small, closed systems too.
Honestly, I think your best option is to return the female if you can catch her and find a new LFS that won't sell someone just a s8ingle female to go with a single male.
Matt
