thank you
i'm not sure about the gramma or the dottyback, i've never kept either of them.
my mandy shares her space well with a pair of percula clowns, a yellow tang (bad purcahse decision when i was new to the hobby), a lawnmower blenny, and a carpenter's flasher wrasse.
my clowns tend to hang out near the top of the tank, and i've never actually seen them go for any pods. it could be that i'm not watching closely enough, or that they're simply not interested. oddly their favorite food seems to be pellets or frozen cyclop-eeze, and they will beg without shame any time i walk near the tank. my blenny will go after frozen or other prepared foods with vigor, he's another one i've never observed eating pods, but again it could just be that i haven't seen it. my hunch is that most benthic copepods would probably be too small to arouse his interest, but that's just a guess.
as far as other fish, you've got some good choices. there are plenty of small gobies that could make good tank mates, and plenty of other smaller fish. i would stay away from tangs (obviously), and damsels for sure.
getting the pods in to the DT from the fuge can happen on its own. i just don't run a sponge or prefilter on my return pump, and i don't run a filter sock on my overflow. so everything more or less has open access to the cycle of the water column.
culturing pods and phyto plankton in external vessels works well too. i used some old 2 liter bottles for my phyto, and some of those large pretzel jugs from CostCo for my pods. then i just sat them up in the window of my spare bedroom to get some light. you don't have to culture pods and phyto, but it is kind of fun to do, and can help you hedge your bets as to the food sources.
the more you stack the deck in your favor with these types of fish, or any specialized eaters, the better off you will be in the long run. i've heard some people who keep freshwater and saltwater compare the dragonets to Dario darios, with their propensity to hunt and peck for live food, while tending to ignore, or be indifferent to prepared foods.
you can successfully get dragonets on to prepared foods in many cases, even sometimes pellets, but the difficulty with making that their primary food source is the way they tend to graze.
rather than eating a few large meals per day, these guys need to forage constantly. they have short digestive tracks, and will pick at the rocks and sand every moment they're awake. so i treat any prepared or frozen food as a supplement.
that's where the Paul B style feeder can come in handy, as you can see in the second picture there. the netting on tops helps to slowly release the baby brine shrimp inside, so that they can be picked at over the course of a few hours.
here is a video i took of her eating:
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you're off to a great start for getting a mandy, because you're asking the right questions.
the one thing i will say in general about the jumpers, is that all fish will jump if they feel threatened. i ran open top for quite a few months, but sadly lost one of my original clown fish pair when he decided to jump out. i am guessing he was scared at some point when i was away and made the leap.
glad i could help. i love seeing people successfully keeping these fish, in my opinion they are hands down some of the most gorgeous fish in the sea, and it always makes me happy to see fat, healthy specimens.