mr. maroonsalty,
You stated it correctly, it is all about pressure. It's called head loss in fluid dynamics. There is friction head, velocity head, and pressure head. The three add up to your total head loss. When considering the diameter and volume of the pipe, it's pressure, measured in distance above the pump that counts. A one inch diameter pipe at 10 feet above a pump has the same pressure (head loss) on the pump as a 6 inch diameter (or any diameter) pipe would at the same 10 feet distance.
Think of it this way, the pump isn't trying to lift all of the water up and out of the pipe, it's only trying to overcome the pressure at the pump outlet.
As far as friction loss in the pipe goes, I think that, unless the pipes are replaced every so often, that the tubular worms and calcium deposits that grow along the inside of them (observed) contribute significantly to friction head loss for small diameter pipe. I would advise to use larger diameter pipe (exa, 1" instead of 3/4") whenever possible to mitigate this effect. Using a larger pipe reduces the velocity in the pipe. The friction loss due to velocity is V^2/2g. So reducing the velocity dramatically reduces the friction loss (square of the velocity).
So after all that - fatter pipes help.
Hope this helped somewhat.