rtenzo,
I think you've gotten some excellent help from people who want you to succeed. As I posted earlier, get things started that were discussed earlier and then just take some time and read. With all of this information coming at you, well, it can be overwhelming. One thing about this hobby is that you really never stop learning. And, things change. As I stated in one of my previous responses, I didn't know Reef Central existed when I started. Man, my lfs really took me for some heavy cash and I still had a poorly run system--but, like so many newbies, you rely on your lfs to help you. I feel very fortunate now however, because there is a store about an hour from where I live and these guys TRULY know what they're doing. It's a great store with very knowledgable people! And, they don't rip people off. I've seen them strongly discourage the sale of an animal to people because the customer's tank wasn't ready, the lighting wasn't strong enough, or the tank wasn't big enough etc. To me that says integrity.
There will always be people here to help you and your wife so stay excited!