Why cant you accomplish this by setting your meter to spot metering or center weighted metering in AP or SP mode? I completely agree that manual mode is where you want to end up. But there are some tricks along the way
Even there, you still have to understand how the camera meters a scene. In other words, if I spot meter on a black shirt, I'm going to end up with an overexposed picture. Even if I spot meter on someone's skin, if they have very light skin, I'll end up underexposing, and if they have darker skin, it will be overexposed.
That said, I use aperture priority mode quite a bit, but I'm successful with it because I examine my scene and either a) decide that using an automatic mode isn't appropriate for the conditions, b) adjust my exposure compensation for the given scene or c) recognize that the camera is going to do just fine, and let it ride.
The point being, it still comes down to understanding photography and understanding your equipment. Until you have those basics, you don't have any real control over your results.
So, at best that mild rant is interesting, but not super informative. Here's a start for gaining that baseline knowledge.
1) To better understand photography, a good place to start is a book like
Understanding Exposure by Bryan Peterson (sp?) or some of Scott Kelby's books (and of course, there are a ton of others).
2) To better understand your camera, David Busch's books are awesome (
http://www.amazon.com/David-Buschs-Digital-Photography-Guides/dp/1435459407/ref=sr_1_1?s=books&ie=UTF8&qid=1382625460&sr=1-1&keywords=david+busch+nikon+d3100). It's basically your user manual on steroids.