I don't know what your talking about "Downhill spiral " . It's plumbing, I can redo it 100 times if needed
It's not a " Bad " overflow setup. First I'm using the mega overflow kit in the weir. I have the water level in the weir 1/2" below my DT water so I'm not getting any waterfall noises in the weir
I'm using a Jeabo return pump 3000 GPH and the controller is set at half. Theirs no reason to throttle back the return pump and more, as I still need flow through the refugium and skimmer
Theirs a few ways I can replumb it, reverse durso, Tee it at the 90 into the sump, etc
I'd like to hear from someone as I know I'm not the only one using a durso stand pipe , which by design is not a siphon
Ok, seems mcgyver could not make you happy, so I doubt what I have to say will make you any happier

Let's dig in ...shall we?
First let's take a look at your flow rate. You have a 3000gph pump on a 60 gallon tank? No, a JEBAO DC-3000 pumps 3000L/h or 800gph @ 0' of head height. Now that discrepency and impossibility is out of the way (no way there is over a a few hundred gph flowing in the video...

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I don't know what size your 'mega-flow' durso is, but I imagine it is sitting on a 1" bulkhead, considering you ran 1" plumbing to the sump. A 1.5" durso, will get you to ~ 350gph silently and relatively bubble free, but not on a 1" bulkhead with 1" plumbing, with 2 90's and a horizontal run. Way too small a pipe size, and way too much turbulence after the water hits the bulkhead. 1.5" bulkhead, 1.5" pipe, 45's instead of 90's, and no horizontal run, you would be cooking with gas...as it is you may get ~50gph maybe a bit more(pipe < 1/4 full of water) without any problems. This is due to the physics of the open channel or 'Durso.'
The way the plumbing enters the sump, may be 'as intended' but it is not at all intuitive. The sump is too tall, forcing the use of 90's and a horizontal run. None of which is helpful at all in the noise department when dealing with a 'durso.'
What needs to happen is the horizontal run needs to be angled down. This may not allow the plumbing to enter the sump where it does now. But then you have a totally useless union sitting on top of the sump, so removing that and you may be able to 45 into the sump, if not right there, at the other end of the that section that does not have a top on it.
Once you get into the sump in a reasonable fashion, extend the line under the water level no more than an inch. (The sock can go away too, there is no practical purpose for mechanical filtration in a marine system, as what we are concerned with cannot be removed by mechanical filtration.)
At this point the only noise you will get is due to the turbulence caused by the durso being run past its laminar limitations. So, reduce the flow rate, till the noise stops. This is the only real solution to the problem; everything else is just gimmicks, and you will still have to reduce the flow rate. You can't beat the physics. Simply put, durso drains are never quite silent, never quite stable, unless they are kept within their laminar flow limitation which is the pipe < 1/4 full of water.
On the other hand, if you want to run this tank where it should be running ~600gph, you will absolutely have to convert to a siphon system. Durso's will not quietly handle much more than 350gph as stated above, and subject to the conditions above. There is defininately room under that tank for a gate valve, you just have to abandon the bulkhead in the top of the sump, which you should do anyway, to get the drain angled down.
Well, you may not have a 'bad' overflow setup, but it is certainly not a good overflow setup...considering it is driving you up the wall, is it? The only fix is to convert to a siphon system, if you want to maintain your current flow rate, and mandatory if you want to increase the flow rate.
I messed with durso drains, and variations thereof, long after I switched to siphon systems. To make a long story short, they are fine for smallish low flow fresh water systems, but they aren't much good for anything over a 30 - 40 gallon marine system, if that.