I'm not a pump expert, but I don't see the problem with restricting the flow with a valve (Except that adjusting the pump would save electricity). Like, it seems like it would "feel" the same to the pump as head pressure does.
Anyway, my used tank I'm upgrading into came with an iwaki (American motor) it's loud af compared to the ehiem submersible I was running. I'm getting an eheim 1260 asap. But if noise isn't an issue like the sump is going in a basement, the iwaki is a real slick design with a great reputation for handling head pressure and long lifespan. There's other good ones too. I think you're on the right track buying the best pump you can for the future tank and just throttling it with a valve.