I personally like caribsea aragonite special grade reef sand, not the sugar grain size. Rinse it well with ro/di water or the old water change water. Stays really white with my diamond goby sifting it. I only put a half an inch to help keep detritus build up to a minimum while still having the look of sand.
I wouldn't use the play sand unless it was aragonite based, they are mosty silica based.