Most hitchhikers are Xantid IME. Grapsids are usually fairly dorsally compressed while xanthids are bulkier. Both stay fairly small. Xanthids will eat anything they can get to including polyps, algae, and meaty foods including your fish when they get larger. Usually they have darker dactyls (fingers) too.
Ive got a few in my system that I cant seem to get rid of. But I havent noticed any serious damage. Ill pull them out when I do.