1. MinS: I would stop it for at least 1 month. I just read up on the FM website that this product "supports a healthy bacterial population"....that suggests this potion has amino acids as well as some sort of an organic carbon source.
2. I can understand about ****ing off the wife...I live in an apartment too (on the 8th floor and have two young children...one just started kindergarten). Are you able to change the water at night when the baby is sleeping? -Or even carry out 20% every 5 days...the reason I ask you to do these water changes is because when tanks have problems like you describe, it is water changes IME that has helped the tank recover more than ANYTHING else.
3. I currently use GFO, but thinking of switching to Aluminium based remover which I used to use. Al based PO4 remover is so much cleaner, doesnt discolour the water etc. But switching over may help.
Your light profile sounds about right.
Thing is that I've always had these problems, it's not something that happen just now. And the problem with the water changes isn't that it makes sounds when doing the actual change but that the container with water takes up a whole lot of room in the already small bathroom we got and it takes about 13 hours for me to fill up the water and the pipes makes noices that disturbs the wife so she can't sleep and therefor we can't run it during the night. If you think it's absolutely vital to change all the water then ill do it but im just wondering if its needed as i did a 50% water change quite recently and the fact that this isn't a new problem I'm having should indicate that it's not something in the water right now that needs to be removed