Elricsfate
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Perhaps we are seeing different things in this post.
What I believe I am reading is that this guy offered a tank and some guidance to his gf/wife. He told her she needed to do some reading and learn about the plants/animals in her care.
She then disregarded his advice, did no research, and promptly began neglecting the tank and it's inhabitants. She no doubt turns to him to pick up the slack on the parts of this hobby that are actual work and not just enjoyment. He has grown tired of talking about it, working on it, and helping her tread water on this project. So his solution is just to let her learn the hard way.
Let us say I can empathize. Hence my comments.
At the end of the day, if you are passionate about something and your spouse is indifferent, or worse, towards that same thing...you relationship isn't going to last. Because the things that give your life meaning...don't mean anything to the people in your life.
In those instances, on a number of prior occasions, I have chosen to change the people and keep the passion.
If you see his post differently, or would make a different choice...that's cool. But generic statements are never true. Relationships are not always more important than things. If they are unhealthy relationships, and the things are just the catalyst that demonstrates this truth...keep the fish, dump the chick.
IMHO
