Glad to comment every once in a while. This old fish breeder is very happy to see so much more activity in this field. I can learn a great deal from new breeders, there's always a better way and keener observations. One thing I've found is that Information shared always comes back in some way to help you out when you need it. Maybe some day we'll catch up to the fresh water breeders, however I doubt that I'll live that long....
On the colony thing, many small substrate living fishes have a conflict going on between spacial territorality and reproductive territorality (pairs and harems) and community living (colonies). Usually the environment is large enough to accomodate this conflict, the excluded fish just moves a little way away, just outside the dominant fish's or pair's territory. Unfortunately aquariums are seldom large enough to allow this sort of spread so we are usually restricted to the territorial limits of the pair or a small colony. Thus we tend not to have much experience with the conlonial aspect of behavior in these fishes. In jawfish, the colony can spread out over a fairly large area, maybe from an area the size of a tennis court or as small as a pool table, depending on the size of the sandy, rocky area between the reef formations.
There is also a reason for choosing 6 fish to make up a colony or find a pair among fish with less then definite sexual dimorphism. Stastically, 6 fish is the smallest number that will assure one of obtaining a male and female. In my case I think, based on the abdomen "plumpness" and behavior (I'll take another look at head sizes and jaw development) that I have three males, two adult females and one juvenile, probably female. There is correspondance between Bandeng's photos and the morphologhy of my yellowheads. There is a lot of behavioral interaction, taking over different burrow, posturing, etc. It may be that my tank is too small for 6, but things will get sorted out soon. The little one is at the very edge of the colony. Since they are adults and are interacting, I think I'll get spawning in at least a month or so. I did see a male with eggs when they were collected so I think environmentally and seasonally spawning can happen.
Luis, we were lucky last year, only Wilma caused us some grief. I think we'll be OK as long as we don't get a direct hit from a big one.
Martin