Actually, I'd flip-flop that, and have the 20A go upstiars and the 15A stay downstairs. The inductive load on lights firing up can be quite substantial and unless you've got more than 1000watts of heaters, I would be comfortable with the 15A downstairs.
Drill first, paint later
As for pipe sizes, I'd have at least a 2" bulkhead for the inlet of the return pump, prefferably a straight shot too, no bends.
I'd then also use 2" off the outlet of the pump to the Tee. Prolly can go with 1" off to the refuge, and I'd use a needle valve, not a ball valve here, easier to control the flowrate. As for drain to the sump from there, Prolly a 1" would be more than enough flow, you could also do 1.5" since that's the size you're gonna use to drill the back of the tank if memory serves? If you're using 1"ers on the back of the tank, go ahead and use that for your fuge drain.
For the section from the Tee up to the display tank, I'd keep using 2" pipe and reduce it down only after you've manifolded it for however many returns you're going to use.
The only question that remains is where to install ball/check valves and unions. Depends on what you want to do... If you really want to be able to fiddle with the flowrate from the return (which will be substantial), you can install ball valves up near the end of the line after you've manifolded them. Either way, I'll demand a true union ball valve on both the inlet and outlet of the return pump for not if, but when it requires servicing. Either that, or have a threaded plug for your return pump inlet bulkhead and just a union on it.
Hope all that made sense?