Your siphon pipe need to be at least 6" below water line. This prevent air from being sucked from water surface. If it is too low close to the bottom of the overflow box, make sure that you have enough space in your sump, because most of the water in the overflow box will be flushed to the sump when the return pumps are shut off.
The E pipe should be as high as the wanted water level in the overflow box. You don't want it too low, because that will cause the water to splash in the overflow box. 1" or less. You want the E pipe to handle all of the water volume, if/when there is something wrong with the siphon pipe (plugged, maintenance, etc). So, it is a good idea to have the E pipe at least the same size as the siphon pipe. Bigger is better.
I just realized this but i believe i have the main drain(1") flowing at about 1/3 of its capabilities so now i am wondering if the E drain (3/4) wide open would flow as fast as the main drain does now throttled down. i guess the way to test this would just be to cut off the main drain and see if the E drain will flow fast enough. I guess i will try this when i get home and recut the E pipe
Beside the water volume in the return section of the sump, you also, need to pay attention to the water level in the tank. When the siphon pipe is clogged, the water level in the tank will rise rapidly before falling in the E pipe. You need to have enough distance between the water line in the tank and the edge of the tank, so the water will not be spilled over, before the E pipe handle the flow.
If you have two bulkheads, use the the larger one as E pipe and the smaller one as siphon.
It is difficult to get it right from the first time. Test, test, and test again. Adjust the length of the pipes as needed until you get it right. Once you get it right, you don't have to worry about it again.