Once more unto the breach... ...once more
If it looks like a duck, walks like a duck, smells like a duck, and sounds like a duck ...it is a duck... Evaluating exactly why it is a duck, may take further investigation.
There is no such thing as purchasing a straight peice of lumber. That animal does not exist, off the shelf at any rate. Dimensioned lumber CAN be made straight, after you get it home/to shop. Cutting it in smaller chunks and working on each seperate piece gives better results.
You have your terms confused. In this type of stand construction, bow never goes up or down, bow is side to side. What goes up or down is the crook (also called spring,) and the crook always goes DOWN for the top rim and up for the bottom rim. If the crook goes down for the bottom rim, the stand rocks end to end. If the crook goes up for the top, the tank rocks end to end.
If the crook goes up with one board, and down for the other board, you end up with a general mess. Seems simple doesn't it.
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Well, in a perfect world perhaps, but in the real world, the crook will never be symetrical, (sperical, parabolic, elipictal.) It will usually resemble half of the curve for the formula x² . (more curved at one end than the other, there is a term for that, which I can't think of offhand.) which causes dimensional differences from one end to the other, when it comes to the uprights for the stand. If they are all the same length, it is not going to work out so well. Crook will also cause the stand to "spring" under load. (symetrical crook or non-symetrical crook, both 'coined' terms.)
A lot of the lumber from big box stores is really bad. Combining bow, warp (also called 'twist',) crook, and kink, all in the same stick. (2 x 4 doesn't show much cup, but 2 x 6 and above will start to show it.) A stick like this, by most anyones eye, will hit the junk heap. Sometimes however, it is not quite so obvious.
What causes the majority of issues with homebuilt stands is the crook. Crook is seldom mentioned, however. Crook causes the dip in the long axis under the tank, the hump along the long axis of the tank (rocks end to end.) If placed diagonally opposed, it causes the stand to rock diagonally (OP's stand,) it 'twists' the stand. See the warpped board example above.
Crook is seldom mentioned becuase it requires machinery to deal with it, and that moves it out of the realm of weekend warrior stand builders, and of course we would not want to do that... ...it is more fun to have more folks frustrated.. and hand planing is really piling it on; shims and foam can fix anything...
Crook: 2 x 6, Jointer; points down light pressure till it is perfectly flat...with one perfectly flat edge, the other edge can be flattened with a little deductive reasoning. Voila, you have a 'flat' 2 x 4" (or 2 x 5" depending on how much you take off) ...assemble ASAP before
evironmental conditions alter the 'flatness' again.
FYI most manufactured
lumber stands, are actually 2 x 3": jointed 2 x 4's. Half inch takin off. The 2 x 3" is overkill, so the half inch taken off makes no difference at all.
RocketEngineer's design is very sound and solid, albeit overkill. However, for the weekend warrior stand builder, it is far easier and less frustrating to use sheet plywood and build a box that will, for standard sized tanks, be overkill as well. The OP's stand and hundreds of others throughout this forum, are excellent examples of how easy lumber stands are to build right ...in reality.