Given the feedback I've received here and in my discussions with local hobbyists, here's where I am now.
Large Angel (0 or 1) - If I do get a large angel it's likely to be a Blue Girdled Angel as this one is a bit smaller and less aggressive than the others. However, regardless of which species I select, it's clear that if the fish grows to full size or near full size my tank will likely be too small to accommodate it properly. As has been pointed out, if/when that does happen I could always restructure the aquascaping and remove some other fish to accommodate it better or remove the large angel itself but I'm not excited about either prospect. Most likely is that I will pass on getting a large angel.
Dwarf Angel (2 or 3) - I should be able to fit 2 in a tank this size and with this much rock...perhaps 3. Beyond that though I'm moving into the high risk territory, so 2 or 3 is the likely number.
Flame Angelfish
Coral Beauty Angelfish
Flameback Angelfish
Butterflyfish (3 or 4) - With the large Angel likely removed form the picture, this opens the door for 3 or 4 Butterflies to peacefully coexist. As you'll see below, I've changed the list a bit and gone with ones known to be generally more peaceful.
Copperband Butterflyfish
Latticed Butterflyfish
Auriga Butterflyfish
Heniochus Butterflyfish
Tangs (1) - I'd forgotten what a pain the Powder Blues can be, particularly given that I have a Yellow already in there. So, I think I'll limit myself to just the Yellow. If/when it meets its end I may go with a PB to replace it...but hopefully that's not for may years.
Yellow Tang
Anthias (2) - I already have female and male (actually, a female that's morphing...pretty cool) and perhaps I'll just stick with these and not pump the fish count up unnecessarily. So, 2 Anthias...the ones I already own.
Lyretail Anthias (female)
Lyretail Anthias (male)
Wrasses (3) - The Tusk is off the list for all the reasons given in the thread. I have a Six-Line and may add the others for a total of 3. None are large and the Six-Line I have is the most aggressive of the bunch...and not particularly problematic.
Six-Line Wrasse
Carpenter's Flasher Wrasse
Red Velvet Fairy Wrasse
Royal Gramma & Banggai Cardinalfish (1 each) - Since I already own these, they're small, non-aggressive and it would break my daughter's heart if I got rid of them, they stay...1 of each.
Clownfish (1) - I've decided that this is my opportunity to replace the Tomato with an Ocellaris so I'm taking that opportunity.
Foxface (0) - Was never a priority for me so I've decided to eliminate.
Gobies (0 to 2) - Also not a priority but they're small, non-problematic and hardly even count against the bioload. They're on the list for now but I may or may not pull the trigger.
Citrinis Clown Goby
Green Clown Goby