Agreed. Smaller for the siphon, larger for the emergency drain.
I too have noticed fluctuating water levels when setting up the herbie on two different tanks. This happens to a lot of people and there really isn't a consensus on why.
My theory; it's the pump. Voltage from municipal power sources will fluctuate slightly throughout the day and I assume this affects power input to the pump. The voltage fluctuation is only noticeable due to the tight balance between siphon and pump. A tiny increase in pump speed will present itself with a raising tank water level over time.
This is the reasoning behind running a constant trickle on the emergency line. You set the top of the emergency drain to the exact level of water you want to maintain in the overflow. You'll end up finding a balance eventually that won't result in a loud trickle. Question; does your overflow piping terminate above or below the sump water level? Bringing the termination under the sump water level will reduce some of that trickling noise you're hearing.
Also wanted to mention... you'll drive yourself nuts watching the water level fluctuate throughout the day. Just try to ignore it for now and soon you'll forget the issue entirely.
This is true, however, voltage variation does not affect the speed of an AC Motor, nor the output of a pump driven by such. An AC motor is a constant speed inductive device, and the speed is controlled by the frequency, not the voltage. The frequency sledom varies. This is why a rheostat cannot be used to control an AC motor's speed: it requires a VFD (variable frequency drive.)
It is more likely, that if the pump is varying in speed, it is due to poor maintenance, or other problem with the motor. However, the Herbie drain system is not all that stable, and fluctuations are to be expected. The fluctuation can also be caused by the system not be dialed in close enough. It can often be a very "delicate" adjustment, which a gate valve excels at, and at which a ball valve fails miserably.
Trickle in the dry emergency is a poor practice at the very best. This system was not designed with safety features necessary to have water flowing in both lines. Folks building herbies have a tendancy to overlook the safety guidelines for running a siphon system, (along with other good design concepts) that have been established since long before herbie started his thread—I don't get why that is. It is good common sense, that a pipe with water in it is a plug risk, whether something goes down the line or not. If anything, growth in the line whatever, slows the flow in the dry emergency, even the smallest amount, you will have a flood. It only takes once, unfortunately many are asking to learn the hard way. The idea of a self adjusting drain system was the brain child of BeanAnimal, it was never designed or even thought about in the herbie system, till someone (ground zero) confused the two systems.
A well adjusted herbie is not rock stable, however, it should NOT require attention or show a noticeable flunction on a daily basis. It should only need periodic adjustment, making the use of unsafe techniques without a safety net, pointless.