you typically want 3-5x display tank volume per hour after plumbing losses/head..
Then you want a total flow of 10x or more (even up to 100x for SPS,etc..) total flow rate..
(return + powerheads)
And to make sure that I am understanding properly, head pressure is the distance of travel from the return pump outlet to where it physically re-enters the DT?
Not exactly. It's a measure of how much resistance your return pump will experience as it pumps. It's a function of the height to which it is pumping, the number and radius of the bends in your plumbing, and the diameter of the pipe.
Pumps have different performance curves so pump x will pump 100 gph at 4 feet of head and pump y will pump 200 gph at 4 ft of head.
The depth of water in your sump has no bearing on the head pressure. It is only the distance from the outlet of the pump to the highest point in your return line, plus a small bit more to account for friction losses due to plumbing restrictions (elbows, etc.) When in doubt, round up.
And FWIW - if you purchase a eheim 1260, you will never have to replace it. I have one that is well over 25 years old and still going strong. It can also be easily upgraded to the 1262 if you need more flow down the road.
get a DC pump with a controller. Size it slightly bigger than expected. Use the controller to adjust flow. DC pumps are much more energy efficient than AC, you will save a ton of $ over time.
Jaebo DCT8000 would work well.
https://www.amazon.com/Jebao-Jecod-...&qid=1467915566&sr=8-2&keywords=jebao+dc+9000
Here is a headloss calculator the will allow you to select several different pump options, even if it does not list a specific pump you are looking for still input all the info and it will give you the headloss of your exact set-up.
http://www.reefcentral.com/index.php/head-loss-calculator
FYI, there are other calculators listed on the RC homepage that you may also find helpful.