Jenn,
I feel your plight. Prior to becoming an active member of reefcentral, we simply trusted the good people at our local fish store (LFS in case you don't know the acronym). We had developed a relationship with these people for over a year, and we really only had one purchase in the past where their advice was questionable, and that was regarding aggressiveness Anyway, when we bought our little mandarin he came with absolutely no instruction regarding his special care in regard to feeding ("he'll eat anything") WRONG!
I did research him when I got home and it was pure luck that our tank was large enough, had enough live rock, and had been established for over a year since these are the basic requirements before even considering getting a Mandarin. As I said, we were lucky.
Without being judgmental Jenny, consider this a lesson learned (I know we did) to resist impulse purchases in the future. If you like a fish, ask your LFS if they will put it hold, even for a day, while you go home and research it. Google the fish you're looking at, you will usually come up with a number of online retailers that sell the fish. Read the description carefully about any fish you are considering buying, and consult several sites. You can also try
www.about.com it has some detailed information on most breeds. Even a general search on "saltwater aquariums" will find a lot of information helpful info for the novice reefkeeper. And of you course, you can always ask people here for their opinion on your specific situation (not that the people here are God, but some of them come pretty close, lol!)
To summarize, don't impulse buy, do your research, and don't blindly trust any one persons opinion (here, at the LFS, or anyone else for that matter). Consulting several people allows you to consider everyone's advice and experiences to make an educated decision about your own situation.
If you want to get the most out of ReefCentral I would strongly recommend a Premium membership. You will be able to use the search engine, and won't always need to wait for an answer. It's well worth the $25.
Check out these articles:
A great article about Mandarins..this is the one that made me sit up and take notice when we got ours!
http://www.melevsreef.com/mandarin_care.html
Pods FAQ
http://www.oceanpods.com/faq.html
How to Cultivate your own pods
http://home.alltel.net/teakiebarber/index_files/Page344.htm
I think you will see after reading these articles, than unless you happen to luck out with a Mandarin that will eat prepared food (very unlikely) that you would be best to return him.
Finally, I know that to a newcomer some of the members here can come across a little harshly at times, but their words come out of concern for the animals. Don't take it personally. I've found no better place online for live advice.
Hey, the good news is the you've learned a valuable lesson and luckily "no fish were harmed" during this lesson, lol!
Good luck!
Steph
