Xenia growth varies depending on the overall conditions, such as the type of lighting/how powerful, and the water flow.
The argueably *best* placement for Xenia is on a sort of rock-island, away fro the rest of the rock pile, far enough away that the Xenia cannot reach it and climb on over. This way, you can have your Xenia and not worry about it overtaking more desirable corals.
Personally, I put my Xenia in my 10Hex at the top under my PCs. Why? Xenia generally grows in an "upward" manner, scaling rocks to get closer to the light. This puts the rest of my coral out of the path of potential growth. It can grow faster or slower all it wants, because I know that the rest of my coral, which are at least 3 inches below that "level" or lower, are well out of danger of being damaged or overtaken by the Xenia.