I just can't thank you enough for taking the time to document this and share this experience with us. I know it has helped so many people, even if there haven't been as many comments.
My fiance and I set up a 55 gallon reef tank just over a month ago and have a pair of ocellaris (one orange, one black) and, while I know it will be a long while before spawning, I have your thread bookmarked! We also have 5 freshwater tanks (125g, 65g pentagon shape, 2 40g breeders, and a 20g old school river tank) and I think we are going to convert the 125g to saltwater (in steps, we have been giving our oscars and other cichlids to new happy homes as they become available) as well as the 65 gallon (currently, it houses 2 alligator snappers, but come spring, we are building a pond in the backyard for them). He wants the 125 gallon to be just fish and live rock and the 65 gallon he said would be "easy enough" to also be reef eventually. Naturally, I want the splendor and color of the reefs, even if it comes with hard work and patience. After spending hours reading your journal, I am now quite certain that our 2 40 gallon breeders will become "grow-out tanks"
On that note, when they reach "grow-out" stage, can the grow-out set up have live sand? Or, in your experience, does that just make it way too complicated? Also, do your grow-out set ups have their own refugiums as well? What lights do you use in both the 10 gallon "nurseries" and the "grow out" tanks? In the transition from freshwater to saltwater, the greatest sticker shock certainly came with the bulbs! Then again, if there are no corals, would regular saltwater fluorescence be ok, or do they need full spectrum as they grow? Sorry, I have a lot of questions

I have just noticed it is easier to know what you need and collect it as it becomes available from other friends in the hobby.
On yet another note, a great BIG THANK YOU for documenting this for another reason. My fiance used to breed snakes and sell them, including some of the most deadly venomous ones (he has the hospital bills and scars to prove it) but when I came into the picture, I told him that I didn't think it was worth him risking his life and that I didn't want to grow emotionally closer to somebody who didn't value his life well enough to not knowingly put himself in harms way like that. Well, the collection has been dwindling ever since, and he actually MISSES them! He misses raising them, watching their patterns emerge, colors change, etc. I was trying to get him excited about raising other animals as hobbies (even those expensive savannah cats) but, honestly, since he showed me his first rhino viper, I haven't seen him light up as much as reading your posts with him! Phew! I think it is a breakthrough!
I am so excited to take this on when it comes. We both have stressful jobs (he is a racecar/mega high end car mechanic/technician and I am an art director and graphic designer) and already just stare at our tanks, mesmerized, at the end of the day. You are completely correct when you refer to it as a stress reliever. My arthritis is even better since we first set up our saltwater tank

! May I ask what stressful occupation you have? Oh, and of course, if you would eventually consider selling some to us?