is the fuge you show in your original pic level with the DT tank? Cause if so, the latest suggestion isn't going to work, gravity only pulls the one way

You'd almost have to let the fuge gravity feed to the sump and the return from the sump feed the fuge, course gravity feeding the fuge to the sump, you could always pump from the DT to the fuge as well, but would seem a little unsightly to have a pump in the DT for just this purpose and not neccessary imo.
If the fuge is low enough to gravity feed from the display though, than yeah, that last suggestion is a decent option. Although I'm not sure why you went with control valves on the incoming water instead of the outgoing return lines (with a T back to the source to control return pump flow).
also in total agreement over that second suggestion kender, no way in the world you'd ever match incoming and outgoing flow rates even with a very precise valve controling flow. get it .0001 gph off and it'll eventually flood something.
just my 2 cents
Okie, is their anyway to get an actual picture of the setup so far? Might help cut out some of my confusion anyways.