how long have you had them?
Very nearly 8 months now.
I finally saw the female take some frozen mysis the other day. That was a big moment for me. Well, and her, too.
Can you describe your experience a bit?
Sure. The first few weeks were all about slowly starving. They would eat, but not enough to sustain themselves and with no energy at all. They had some acros frags in their tank, but never showed any interest aside from cursory picking. As I said, these never took to food on a coral skeleton.
I thought the female was a goner. She was literally paper thin. In a fit of desperation, I ordered some live mysis. I didn't think they'd take them as they hadn't been interested in anything that big. The first feeding after they came in, I dumped 15 or so live mysis in. They both went crazy! Chasing the crustaceans all over the tank. I didn't see either one actually catch one, but from that moment on they were both interested in food again. Nothing larger than a copepod, but still interested.
Oh, and I offered the live mysis again after that. They were never again interested in them. Who knows?
So, I needed to find something small with lots of energy to help them put on some weight. The solution for these two was Nutramar Ova. I still feed them a little of that every day, though much less than I used to as I'm worried about them getting fatty liver.
Once I got one food that they would eat heartily, I started slowly adding other things to their diet. 1-2 months ago, the male finally remembered that he was supposed to be a substrate picker. He re-taught the trick to the female. And now they are pretty darn easy.
Another thing to keep in mind that I just remembered is that for mine, their appetites seemed to really respond to water quality. When conditions deteriorated, so did their appetites. So, lots of water changes for me, especially because I was literally throwing food at them for a while. (In the range of 4-5 cubes of food, soaked in oyster eggs, vitamins and HUFAs, 4 times per day. LOTS of food.)