hello fellow reefers ( and parents ). today is a very sad day for me , my oldest (son age 20) is moving out on his own . I am both happy and worried for him . he will only be 20 mins away , but I will miss him dearly . I was wondering if those of you that have been thru this already have any advice to make it any easier ( especially you mom's ) . I have a new/used tank set-up and a bottle of cuervo that I will throw myself into to ease the pain .but this really has proven to be harder than I thought it would be .
OT-my first born is moving out ( calling all moms )
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hansnfrans
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I wish my mom wanted me to stay. She keeps tryin' to kick me out 
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jasutton
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calling all sons!
i moved out when i was 18, but farther than 20 minutes away. Yet i still found time to go home every/everyother weekend. At fist i will admit it was becouse i was broke, missed good food (couldnt cook to save my life) and had laundry...but in time you will see that all that became just an excuse to go home. Now i am 6 hours away (yes and still going to school) and i visit every chance i can get. I am not a mom, so i dont know...but if you ask me (and i know you arent) i think you should be proud of him. In my small town very few have what it takes to move away.
OH! and call, no one can screen out Mom's calls
good luck and remember "home is where the heart is" I have been in Chicago 4 years but still consider detroit "HOME"
i moved out when i was 18, but farther than 20 minutes away. Yet i still found time to go home every/everyother weekend. At fist i will admit it was becouse i was broke, missed good food (couldnt cook to save my life) and had laundry...but in time you will see that all that became just an excuse to go home. Now i am 6 hours away (yes and still going to school) and i visit every chance i can get. I am not a mom, so i dont know...but if you ask me (and i know you arent) i think you should be proud of him. In my small town very few have what it takes to move away.
OH! and call, no one can screen out Mom's calls
good luck and remember "home is where the heart is" I have been in Chicago 4 years but still consider detroit "HOME"
Kinetic
Active member
I still live at home, though I'm not the first born. I just graduated college last year, and when I told them I was graduating, they were mostly excited about me coming back home. Strangely, I didn't know if I was reallymoving home, they just assumed it and were so excited that I couldn't say no. So here I am, living at home (well I'm at work right now) with a couple of old people who are great! It's good to hang out with parents, especially since they're getting old. I know it's only temporary, but it's nice while I can still stay with them (especially since I don't have to pay rent).
I think since I'm the youngest of two, this is the last opportunity to take care of one of their kids.
My sister lives about half an hour away, and she comes up almost every weekend to hangout, even stays in her old room for a night or two every other weekend. I guess I'm lucky my family is so close.
I'm sure your son will make plenty of visits back =)
I think since I'm the youngest of two, this is the last opportunity to take care of one of their kids.
My sister lives about half an hour away, and she comes up almost every weekend to hangout, even stays in her old room for a night or two every other weekend. I guess I'm lucky my family is so close.
I'm sure your son will make plenty of visits back =)
Gluestick
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yahutch, after I moved out and got married, and then my sister and brother started the same process, my mom became an alcoholic. Now her relationship with my dad has deteriorated down to nothing. Please don't drink too much cuervo. I would be very sad, and I'm sure your son would too. And that won't make him want to move back, either....
marilynrn711
Premium Member
Yahutch..I have 4 girls ages 29, 25, 24 and 21. I was sad the first few times they all moved out then they keep coming back. I bet yours will end up doing the same. They come and go so fast, I cant even keep up w them all. My youngest is leaving for her last year of college and I am not too sad. Just a little. I think I have gotten used to it.
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When I moved out my parents rented my room. Don't know how I should feel about that.
Every year starting in 1st grade on the first day of school my mom would follow me down the street and throw rose petals and say yippee. When I college she send the rose petals. She said that was the first day of her vacation.
I got even. Every time I go home I steel food. I am sure the same will happen with you. He will be home washing his clothes. Eating dinner. Watching TV. You will wonder if he really left.
Every year starting in 1st grade on the first day of school my mom would follow me down the street and throw rose petals and say yippee. When I college she send the rose petals. She said that was the first day of her vacation.
I got even. Every time I go home I steel food. I am sure the same will happen with you. He will be home washing his clothes. Eating dinner. Watching TV. You will wonder if he really left.
thanks everyone for the words of encouragement . I hope he visits often . he has a full size washer/ dryer in he is unit , so there will be no laundry visits . he does love to eat mom's cooking though .
I promise not to form any bad habits over this.
Monica , are you keeping seahorses or thinking of getting into them ? the new set up I am working on is for my family of Erectus , they really are neat . I was breeding , but have taken a break for awhile to help my husband who is having some health issues .
I promise not to form any bad habits over this.
Monica , are you keeping seahorses or thinking of getting into them ? the new set up I am working on is for my family of Erectus , they really are neat . I was breeding , but have taken a break for awhile to help my husband who is having some health issues .
superlazy
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He will be fine,just think You could be in my shoes.
My 18yr old niece just moved in and has no intention of leaving.
Because of this I lost my fish room, have been remodeling the basement and had to buy another car for her to use. to top it all off the other day she asked me to take her to get a tattoo:eek1:
At this rate the 120 will never happen
My 18yr old niece just moved in and has no intention of leaving.
Because of this I lost my fish room, have been remodeling the basement and had to buy another car for her to use. to top it all off the other day she asked me to take her to get a tattoo:eek1:
At this rate the 120 will never happen
Well, I am taking my youngest to College in Florida on August 24. I will tell you how we are dealing with it....
1. Taking a cruise the day after we drop him off.
2. Renting his room to a local college student(very studious young man, quiet, a friend of my oldest son).
3. Enjoying NOT having parties in our backyard on a regular basis.
4. Enjoying NOT having a smart aleck mouth that knows everything hanging around.
5. Not worrying that every time we take a weekend trip, the cops will end up breaking up a party at our house.
6. Not worrying that one of my cars will be smashed up all the time.
Now if I could just get the oldest to move out, I would be in heaven.
The reality is, my wife has been a little pouty about this, but she will live. I survived for 25 years before I had kids, and had a great time.
I love them dearly, but life does NOT revolve around them.
There are so many things to do in this world, you should be glad your job is done..... go out and have fun!
Oh, and by the way - they will be back, at least most of them, at some point.
1. Taking a cruise the day after we drop him off.
2. Renting his room to a local college student(very studious young man, quiet, a friend of my oldest son).
3. Enjoying NOT having parties in our backyard on a regular basis.
4. Enjoying NOT having a smart aleck mouth that knows everything hanging around.
5. Not worrying that every time we take a weekend trip, the cops will end up breaking up a party at our house.
6. Not worrying that one of my cars will be smashed up all the time.
Now if I could just get the oldest to move out, I would be in heaven.
The reality is, my wife has been a little pouty about this, but she will live. I survived for 25 years before I had kids, and had a great time.
I love them dearly, but life does NOT revolve around them.
There are so many things to do in this world, you should be glad your job is done..... go out and have fun!
Oh, and by the way - they will be back, at least most of them, at some point.
