I'm not sure why the Hulk is here...
But as far as responsible reefkeeping I think that is something that should start right from the beginning. I'm very selective of the fish & corals I buy, I see entirely too many people who say I have to get rid of this fish it's getting too big. Or it's picking on my other fish.
I have a 6-7" Sailfin tang that I bought from someone who was moving (over a year ago). I am upgrading my tank to 180g for more room, and recently removed 3 showpiece softies that took years to grow to allow more swimming room. Total system volume will increase from 240g to 400+g for stability
I also have a 3-4" Hippo, again a trade with another reefer
If a fish "may" eat my zoa's, pick at my clam, eat my cleaner shrimp, then I don't buy it
When I do venture into the newbie forum I try to get as much info from the person as I can.
Tank size, sump, skimmer, lights, water changes, other equipment
It all plays a part in how you answer a person question (usually)
I saw a few posts a while ago where someone was instructing someone - not really harshly - but without full information
I posted & asked additional questions to clarify
Other people then responded with much better information & answers. Sometimes all it takes is to put yourself in the other person shoes & remember when you were 1st starting out
Pay no attention to my post count, I used to work a Help Desk & surfed here all day - mostly in our club forum - a lot of gossip.
With over 4 years in this hobby I'm still very much learning
After 2 years of running my skimmer I just learned of a much better setup of the skimmer from another reefer in the club
A lot of people take this hobby very personally & become very agitated & argumentative. When you are passioniate about something - it happens. Conflicting points of opinion will cause heated discussions, such is human nature
I do not think RC is getting hostile, I just think the world has been hostile for a long time, and that is now flooding over into all aspects of our lives
The hectic life style a lot of us lead these days makes for a very stressful life
I became a Reefer to enjoy the hobby, not argue. And that is what I aim for each day. If something on here upsets me, I can easily go to a different thread, or shut my PC off
I'm getting older, and life is too short to argue
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