Well my female is still alive and kicking. Actually dominating the tank. I have a flame hawk I need to get rid of, got it for free. No one in the tank likes it. It's also forced my rainsford into a cave.
Found a female bluestar, about 1", 20% off. I couldn't resist. My female gave it a bit of a rough time so it buried itself after a half hour.
We will see what happens...