I see both sides of this argument, but I think the solution is more about what we DO with the waste water vs. trying to stop any waste water.
Filling your washing machine with waste water from your RO/DI unit is a great first step, and the craze towards front loading washers makes this choice a rapidly diminishing option.
Watering your lawn/garden/plants with your waste water is a good option too. I personally run my waste water hose out onto the grass in my yard instead of watering parts of my lawn. This past summer in southern Texas was one of the hottest on record - 60 days + of 100 degree heat with very minimal rain. Cities started wide watering bans and the only parts of my yard that are still alive are the parts in the shade, or the parts that my RO/DI waste water hose reached.
Could I remove the grass and stop the need for watering? Yes, I could, but I'm not. I'll just keep watering my grass with my RO/DI waste water and let the dead stuff grow back next spring when it rains again.
I think more complicated systems such as collecting all the waste water, then pumping to your showers or feeding into sprinkler systems is a nice idea, but until the governments of the world require that we take such steps, most people will chose more corals/gear for the tanks vs. spending lots of money on saving waste water.
Waste reducing methods such as the double membrane that Bulk Reef Supply sells are great steps, but water is still so cheap as a commodity that I personally can't justify it. I've run through 400 gallons of RO/DI in the month of September and I didn't notice it on my monthly water bill. The time to recoup your investment on a double membrane unit is too long for me. Probably by the time I get my money back, I'll need a new $50 RO membrane.
Every reefer must decide where they stand on the subject and design their systems accordingly but I don't think this issue is a problem, its merely something to make work for your benefit.