Really it comes down to patience and being observant.
For example, I am restarting my tank, just some frags in it right now. I had no corals in it for almost a year. When my tank was full of SPS, my Ca Reactor effluent was at 7.8 liters/hr and I had all my topoff going through a kalk reactor just to maintain my levels, but they were rock solid.
So now with just some frags and coralline algae growing my demands are much different. I had forgotten how much effort it is to first dial the system in. I originally thought I could just drop the reactor down and run kalk and I would be fine, but my alk would spike in just a day. Next I turned off the ca reactor, and using just kalk I was still spiking it in a day. To try to keep my alk at 8 dkH, now every time I had a spike I had to shut down my kalk and Ca Reactor and wait until the levels came back to 8 and then turn everything back on. Testing everyday. Took me almost two weeks to get it dialed in, but now the alk tests the exact same reading every time I take a measurement at the same time of day.
So here is what I recommend you do.
Get your parameters where you want them, eg 8 dkH, Ca 425, Mg 1350
First find out what your alk consumption is. Test your water for alk, and then shut down whatever dosing method you are using, ca rxr, kalk, dosing pumps etc. wait 24 hours and then test again. The difference in alk between the two days is how much alk you consume a day. That is what you are trying to dose in the tank. Don't worry about Ca or Mg right now.
Set your equipment to dose what you think you need to to maintain the alk. After you make your adjustment wait 24 hours and test your alk again, make an adjustment based on what your reading is. Eventually you will be making smaller adjustments and the alk will test out the same for a few days in a row, ok now you are done. At least until your corals start to grow and you need to make another adjustment. I find that once you get it locked in, the easier it is to adjust later.
While you are adjusting, I would stop and take some corrective action if your alk moved more than 1-2 dkH in either direction. If it gets too high, stop dosing and wait for it to drop, you will know how long to wait because you found out how much alk you consume earlier. If it is too low, dose some buffer to the tank to bring up the alk, again you will know how much to use based on what you consume per day.
Only dose alk when you are dialing in, alk is used much faster than ca or mg so you can let those slide while you are getting your tank stable. Once you have your alk dialed in, test you ca and mg and dose those to get things back to where you want them. From there on your parameters should be very stable.
It's a lot to do, but once you have it all set up you will have a very good understanding of how your tank works and everything will be a breeze with SPS.
