Yup, you pretty much nailed it! 2 cubes/day for a 90-120 tank is pretty typical, some might consider that heavy feeding, some might push it to 3 cubes/day with a lot of livestock.
So a 6x6 screen is about right, that's a very flexible size to start with because you can play with the lights (distance, diffusing, photoperiod, etc) and figure out what works best for your system.
I would try to do that vs "feeding the scrubber", you shouldn't really have to do that. Feed what you need, adjust the scrubber.
Go 2-sided if you have the space. Instead of going one-sided to cut the filtration in half, put each light on a different timer and alternate which one is on. this will effectively reduce the filtration capacity, but not have the negative effect of a true single-sided scrubber.
In fact, this is probably not a half bad idea and I don't know why I didn't think of this before...if you are running a 9-12 hour photoperiod, you can actually run a 24/7 photoperiod, but just alternate which fixture is on. Side 1 on 6am-6pm, side 2 on 6pm-6am. Etc.