Annoyed Fiance
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useskaforevil
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my girlfreind is totally into my tank, i was worried about her not understanding how much work it is and why i feel compelled to blow incredible amounts of money on living rocks, but i was totally wrong. enough so that she actually wants me to help her set up a nano so that she can get a feel for everything
She said that i need a 12 step program for my addiction. I told her its less money i have to go out, and I could be doing worse things. She loves the tank and her little boy is really into it but they dont understand that not everything always makes it. BTW her hobby is pickin at me about the tank.
widmer
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My live-in GF has been very tolerant of all my hobbies. Our current apartment is something like 1000 sq ft, and probably 2/3 of that is somehow mixed up in my hobbies, whether it be the orchid collection taking up half the living room, or the mushroom growing cabinet [complete with autoclave, laminar flow area etc] in the common area, or the aquarium project taking over the spare bedroom. Part of me has always wished she would embrace my hobbies more for her own sake, but I guess I'm lucky as it is.
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LOL
My live-in GF has been very tolerant of all my hobbies. Our current apartment is something like 1000 sq ft, and probably 2/3 of that is somehow mixed up in my hobbies, whether it be the orchid collection taking up half the living room, or the mushroom growing cabinet [complete with autoclave, laminar flow area etc] in the common area, or the aquarium project taking over the spare bedroom. Part of me has always wished she would embrace my hobbies more for her own sake, but I guess I'm lucky as it is.
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SurfnFish
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I get grief about how much I spend on my tank...how much I spend on gas to go get stuff for my tank...how much water I go buy to top-off my tank...AND how much time I spend on RC or with my tank.
I tried explaining that I do things as cheap as possible (i.e. using NSW, alot of DIY projects, and buying used equipment), but she doesn't understand. I also explain that I could be slingin drugs, or ACTUALLY cheating on her, but it always falls on deaf ears.
I tried explaining that I do things as cheap as possible (i.e. using NSW, alot of DIY projects, and buying used equipment), but she doesn't understand. I also explain that I could be slingin drugs, or ACTUALLY cheating on her, but it always falls on deaf ears.
DamnPepShrimp
Moved On
I have the same situation with my faimly. They always complain about my tank and how much money I spend on it and all. But when company is over, they try to show it off and point out different things in the tank and how cool it is. I just laugh it off. Your definitely not the only one!
o.c.d.
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I think most of the Reef Attics go through similar problems. I found that explaining, than bargening or bribing works well with my wife. But DO NOT buy expensive equipment and try to hide or pretend like it was already there, in my experience that dose not work and the pain o the pain is not worth it. Good luck and
HippieSmell
Occupy Reef Central
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Go Go Gonguro!
NanoGurl
In Memoriam
I would think that sitting your gf/bf/wife/husband down and explaining to them how important your tank is to you, and why you like it that it would go a long way. Try to include them in decisions and ask for their opinion.
I bet a lot of what you guys are dealing with is a bf/gf that doesn't feel included and left out. And when you spend that kind of money on something it does effect both of you, especially if you are married.
When you have a mine mine mine attitude and a don't touch my tank bc you can't possibly know what you're doing attitude don't be surprised when you get b|tched at about it.
I bet a lot of what you guys are dealing with is a bf/gf that doesn't feel included and left out. And when you spend that kind of money on something it does effect both of you, especially if you are married.
When you have a mine mine mine attitude and a don't touch my tank bc you can't possibly know what you're doing attitude don't be surprised when you get b|tched at about it.
