Thank you for the replies.
I really don't know what to do at this point. Everyone in this thread and everyone local i have talked to have pretty much told me not to try and feed him
I have 150w halides but I guess that isn't enough. Still, wouldn't the anemone move up if he wanted more light? I can see that long term i mave have a problem but my 150w's are so insufficient that it is deflated 21 hours of the day? Wouldn't he be open more trying to get light if not moving higher??
Same with flow, i figured my tunze's were enough but apparently not. I don't understand why he wouldn't just move into higher flow though

Just to the left of where he is now, the flow is VERY strong, so strong that i cant really keep sand there and the tank is almost barebottom for about a foot along the glass. For some reason, he hasn't moved there though???
I don't know what to do at this point. I could move him into alot more light and alot more flow but the consensus has been not to move him
Please everyone don't think that i dont value or am discrediting your advice or opinions, i'm really not and i value every suggestion i've gotten. I dont know if my response is coming out that i'm not but i dont mean it to. I'm just INCREDIBLY frustrated at this point!!!!
Seriously, this anemone situation has taken ALL enjoyment out of the tank, i barely even want to look at the tank whenever i see the anemone all shriveled and deflated, which is pretty much all day
