The thing that you're missing is that there isn't a constant relationship between the amount you feed and the end population of bacteria. If you took two aquariums that were identical, and fed one with twice the amount of food, you're going to see about the same number of bacteria in both tanks at the end of the day.
The end population has far far more to do with the available surface areas for colonization and the environmental factors like temperature than it does about the amount of food. Bacteria aren't like us. A human eats one hamburger for dinner. I you have two hamburgers then you need two humans to eat them both. It's not that way with bacteria. If there is extra food they'll just process more and save up the energy or multiply. As long as there is some food they will multiply to find a good equilibrium population.
When you add more animals to the tank, sure there is a change to the system. And sure the population dynamics change a little. But not to the extent that you're suddenly going to start seeing ammonia unless you make some radical change with way too many fish ala Tanked. And those population changes happen very rapidly.
The point is that this theory that haw much food you add in one day is all your tank can handle and to add any more (within reason, let's don't dump the whole box of food in there) would require the addition of a proportional number of bacterial cells completely ignores the very real nature of the bacteria that we are talking about.
But that's assuming it's at the limit of living space, wouldn't it?
So for example there are two identical aquariums, both can harbour say a million bacteria.
If say ten units of food is needed to be fed to an aquarium to generate a million bacteria, then yes, either way it'd only going to generate that many bacteria if one feeds ten units of food. But if it's the difference between 4 units of food and 8 units of food, then there would be a difference. Which is what I am getting at. The sole reason why people say 'add things slowly' is for microbes populations to catch up, which basically means two things:
1.) They haven't reached the maximum amount of microbes that can be achieved.
2.) It does take time - slowly or quickly - for microbial populations to build up.
So what happens is instead of having microbial populations build up after live stock additions, I prefer for it to be built up prior to live stock additions.
And to check that there is enough microbes, it is a matter of well, testing it with food additions and to see if it can be dealt with in a specific amount of time.
Your analogy with humans is something I found a bit odd.
Yes, if there is extra food, bacteria will just process more and build up energy and all that, to a certain extent. Same with humans. A human can eat two hamburgers and store energy and all that. Of course there are some lag time between when a human eats one hamburger and the next, but that's just as with microbes. That's why for aquariums with low microbe numbers, it takes time for the microbes to clear ammonia and stuff - they may be able to process it anyways, but over a certain amount, it takes quite a duration of time.
On the other hand, sure a bacterium can process two units of ammonia, much as a human can process two hamburgers, but if you have two bacteria, then those two will process two units of ammonia in the time one bacterium processes one unit of ammonia, much as two humans will process two hamburgers in the period of time one human processes one hamburger.
The fact is I am saying that if population of microbes normally handle 1 unit of food but can actually handle 2 units of food in a reasonable period of time, then what we're doing should be to train them to handle those 2 units of food, so that when we only add one unit of food, or even when we bump it to two units of food, it'd still be fine. Because that'd be what happens. Say the absolute maximum amount of food a bacterium can handle is 2 units, and you add in 4 units, then that'd be too much for that bacterium. Once there are 2 bacteria, they'd be able to take care of those 4 units. And then later on, you can feed 2 units of food. Or 4 units. Or 1. Or whatever. The maximum they can handle is 4, and you've made sure they can do that, so from then on it's fine.