Hi there,
I can answer only some of your questions, based on my direct experience.
These are trees, and they will grow a lot, given the right conditions. In my low-end brackish tank (very poor in nutrients, only lots of nitrate) one of them has reached 50 cm out of water, that's a total of 70+ cm. Vertically, the amount of water you need should leave just the tip out of the water surface, so that leafs can sprout.
I have always started from un-sprouted seedlings, because I had the chance to collect them myself in Brazil. Already sprouted seedlings are very sensitive to sudden water parameter changes, and easily go into osmotic shock, so unless you know the exact parameters of the originating tank, it's not a great idea.
Also, moving/unearthing mangroves out of ground often kills them, so once in, let them stay! You can plant them very close to each other (10 cm or so), since they'll essentially develop vertically for a long while. Depends also on light. I just have two T5, and that appears to be just enough. These guys come from the tropics... The growth of the typical stilt or prop roots can be stimulated keeping the plant hanging (with suction cups on the tank wall) with the root tips out of the ground, thereby forcing the growth in search of the terrain. My experience with this method however is that they don't last too long...
One last thing: these trees are very slow growers, which, in spite of what is often said on the web, means very poor nutrient uptakers. Unless you plant really a lot of them.
Good luck!
Maurizio